One-Woman Kabuki

Hello Nature-led Friends!

If you were wondering where I went, I’ve been a bit everywhere and nowhere at once, but between those two spaces I also went to Japan! It’s been 20 years since I last had the opportunity to return to a country that I love! I’m so grateful to have had the chance to take my teenage son there for his first big international trip*. The last couple of years have been rough and during a particularly emotional night the thought of never seeing my friend Keiko again became unacceptable to me. The next day I proposed a trip to Japan. It was my spouse’s second trip, and he was happy to go back again too. We all had a fabulous trip! Please enjoy the pictures throughout this post! -Melanie Reynolds

Demon Hunter with the Divine Sword to make evil doers repent. Miyajima, Japan. Spring 2026 Melanie Reynolds.

One-Woman Kabuki

When I was in high school, Japanese was the most exotic language offered. German, Spanish, and French felt pedestrian by comparison. Since the age of nine I had wanted to leave my conservative medium-sized American city and explore the world abroad. Not only did Japan seem like a truly unique experience but I already felt some small sense of kinship for all people that live on the ring of fire volcanic chain around the Pacific Ocean. When I stand on the beaches of Washington state, I know Japan is across the way. In fact, after the March 11, 2011, Tohoku earthquake debris floated to our shores for years.

Boat on the Water, Shukkeien Garden, Hiroshima Japan. Spring 2026 By Melanie Reynolds

During high school I also took a Creative Writing class. The teacher picked her favorite students early on and the rest of us were warm bodies occupying chairs for the semester. I wish I hadn’t been so sensitive when I was younger. I took it personally that I wasn’t one of her favorites. I stopped writing for ten years, even though I had been writing and telling stories to anyone with ears since I was eight years old. The only noteworthy academic achievement I’ve ever possessed is that I might one day save the world with my impeccably high reading comprehension.

At the end of semester our Creative Writing teacher invited the class to a dinner and a One-Woman Kabuki play sponsored by a local college. I wasn’t expecting the play to be very interesting. I was a surly hormonal teen that couldn’t see how one woman could be so interesting for two hours straight, but I made myself go. I was enthralled! It wasn’t so much the folktales themselves, although I do love folktales; it was the minute character transitions and physical scene setting. Hair up was one character speaking, shawl and cane is another character. The act of stroking a beard and using a deeper tone is a third character. It was fascinating to see the physical manifestation of storytelling by a talented artist. As described in the Encyclopedia Britannica, “Kabuki… [is a vehicle] for actors to demonstrate their enormous range of skills in visual and vocal performance.”

I’m surprised by how often the experience travels through my thoughts. I’m glad I made myself go. So often I’m quick to talk myself out of things unless I can convince myself of the possibility to become one with the wallpaper. In Japanese class, I’d already come to appreciate the division that the Japanese keep between public and private spaces/public and private faces. We all where masks to varying degrees. Having a public face/mask isn’t bad or disingenuous. It can save you from burnout. A healthy form of compartmentalization to move throughout the day if needed. Not dealing with emotional pain and masking it from people who would help you if they could, isn’t healthy. If you don’t want to indulge other people in your tales of woe; “Tell it to the birds.” I say this to myself when I feel pent up. It means to go do something outside and process my thoughts.

Hiroshima River during Sakura, Hiroshima, Japan Spring 2026 By Melanie Reynolds.

When multicultural societies started moving onto the internet it created a new global internet society. Many of us still brought a version of our authentic selves with wonky color combinations, flash GIFs and bad spelling, but it was fun! Despite being the new wild frontier, it was nowhere nearly as dangerous as what it has become now; a funhouse of mirrors and clowns with ne’er do well intent. Tracking and surveillance, the breadcrumbs for bread and the attention economy in lieu of circuses to enrich the global elite. Google whose name became a verb for internet searches now wants to become the entirety of the internet itself. No “internet” just Google ecosystem with Google products do all and be all. The company would also like to convince us that we would rather prefer to talk to ads than people on the internet. Even I, purveyor of fine wallpaper paste, would rather make small talk with a man obsessed with [insert insanely boring topic here.]

Tanuki Statue; the Trickster God known for his playful and mischievous nature in Japanese Mythology. Miyajima Island. Spring 2026 By Melanie Reynolds.

I may have a low threshold for being around a lot of people often, but I would rather be around other people over whatever crazy dystopian AI internet tech companies are trying to force upon us now. It is not to our benefit. It is to convince their shareholders that they did not in fact blow billions of dollars of investment out of their ass while promising a golden egg.

Hiroshima Dome, Hiroshima Japan, Spring 2026. Melanie Reynolds

Keiko and I were college roommates. On the first night we sat on the balcony watching the sunset over the Olympic mountains. We talked about racism in the US and in Japan. We talked about our families. Then we talked about the bombs. “Little Boy” was dropped on Hiroshima on August 6th, 1945. Plutonium was enriched here in Washington State at the Hanford Nuclear Reservation. The majority of the workers didn’t know what they were working on. The workers were siloed, parts of a chain, parts of a process. They only knew they were working on something for the war effort. The production of that material poisoned the ground water and was released into the air. Keiko and I have lost a lot to a war that wasn’t ours. We are sisters in friendship, forever glowing in radioactive dust.


This website will remain authentically fireside for as long as I maintain it. We (you and I) shall strive to keep our little section of the internet people oriented for as long as we can keep the blogosphere alive. If the whole internet becomes too much for you, it’s okay to leave. Whenever I get overwhelmed, I circle back to what matters most. The people I care about, the land I care about, the relationships I make with no pretense. If you’re feeling lost be sure to reconnect with your communities on or offline. I’ve been reconnecting with friends and neighbors, reading and writing, and sticking my hands in the dirt where they belong. I get a lot of spam messages that want to “maximize the SEO potential of The Nature-Led Life” for money, but I don’t want that. I just want to connect with other humans through conversation. There is still a lot I’m trying to figure out while not dying from dysentery on the Oregon trail. 😉


How are you feeling about the internet and technology these days?


*Canada, doesn’t count as a foreign country. We’re kissing cousins! British Columbia and Washington state share the same splendor of sword ferns, ferries, and cedars. We’re not foreign, we’re the PNW!

Links:

Kabuki | History, Meaning, Costumes, & Facts | Britannica

Google Is Slopping Up Search and It Wants You to Talk to the Ads

Hiroshima Peace Memorial Museum

Hanford Downwinders’ Struggle for Justice – Nuclear Museum

Invisible Labor is Human Mycelium

My dearest Nature-led friends, where has the time gone?

I am fine. I didn’t intend to have such a long break in posting. I’ve been looking for a job. As many of you know, looking for a job is a full-time job in itself. Each version of my resume is carefully crafted to match the keywords and phrases of the job posting in an attempt to get pass the algorithms sieving through the applicants for HR. Each cover letter is earnestly prepared in hopes of convincing a pair of human eyes that yes: I have the skills, I have the desire, and I have done my research about your company.

If I’m lucky, I’ll get a form letter notifying me of my rejection. It was nice that the rejection email I received on Christmas Eve was written by a sympathetic human. I admit that I still locked myself away for a five-minute pity party in the bathroom afterwards because I’d had such high hopes of getting an interview for that one. Most of the time it’s silence. It spreads for weeks while I keep applying to new opportunities so that I don’t have to think about it. I’m told networking is the golden key.

I know lots of lovely people, but ‘leveraging’ their help sounds insincere to me and I’ve never been accused of being insincere! My best asset is that I’m stubborn. My worst asset is that I’m stubborn. A double-edged sword that stubbornness! It runs in the family. I don’t like to ask for things. I prefer to be the helper not the helped. I’d make a terrible damsel in distress! I’d rather be the knight’s ass. I mean steed, but let’s be honest, they aren’t famous for their stubbornness and donkeys are more practical in some terrain. When not applying for paying employment I continue with the invisible labor of being a caretaker. A wife, mother, daughter, environmentalist, engaged community member, and all-around do-gooder.

Job Search Dilemma

One of the issues I face is that job search engines and LinkedIn organize open positions by job title. I get it. It makes sense. I, however, don’t care what my job title is. I care about doing work that matters and making the world better. This means spending more time pruning through endless possibilities. I would love to teach rats to sniff out earthquake survivors or landmine! What kind of job title would that be? It can’t be rat handler because that’s what some pest control people are called. I could be a Program Assistant, Program Coordinator, Research Assistant, Team Lead, Trainer/Presenter, Communication Specialist, Writer, or Technical Writer just make it nature and community focused! These are all “me” and so much more to varying degrees of experience.

Alternatively,

I’m strongly considering creating my own business, but it’s intimidating. I’m fearless in so many ways, but not with the idea of putting myself out there as a business. What if I run afoul of a government form or tax mistake? Freelance writing and editing gigs are a clear possibility, but my friends and family also think I would be a great at coaching and/or consulting. I’m thinking of something similar to a Home Organizer but making it nature-led. Helping people live better lives to reduce stress, save money and save the planet. I know a lot about minimalism principles, biophilic design, planting, landscape design and just this week I became a Certified Habitat Steward from the National Wildlife Federation so I can help people do that too.

The classes were fun, and a couple of friends are exasperated with me because I keep taking classes that I could be teaching! It’s so much easier to be an audience member though, right? I enjoy the enthusiasm of my fellow classmates as they learn about things for the first time. Maybe I could compliment the classes by offering personalized in-home consultations to help their dreams become closer to reality. I prefer working with adults, families, or community groups. I enjoy a high level of organizational challenges.

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I need your feedback:

Would you pay someone a sensible fee to help you get your home and life in order in a way that aligns with your intrinsic values? Or does it only sound like a nice idea, but something you wouldn’t pay for?

I’m open to your ideas, thoughts, and suggestions. I value honesty, please don’t feel the need to worry about offending me! I’m a rugged American, remember? If you punch me in the face I just get back up and say, “Well a fine ‘Hello’ to you too, pardner!”

~A Tangent~

Ah dear, there I go mixing metaphors like some kind of crazy cocktail. Horses and donkeys; knights and cowboys. We’ve got everything here in America! My friend Takeshi once said I was the most Samurai person he’d ever met. I take that as a high compliment from an authentic Japanese person! Once a group of coworkers threatened to launch a thousand ships in my honor. I really have no idea what that was all about. It was somebody else’s tangent and it’s all Greek to me! In a nutshell, I’m America, a crazy, irrelevant chaotic genius! Ugh, somebody put me to work already! I’m spending too much time with myself!

Thank you for visiting!

I do so very much hope to get back to discussing things like my coyote neighbors and something I call ‘land lasagna’ in upcoming posts. I just need to sort some things out first. I’m lacking structure beyond my own tree.

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Mycelium: a root-like structure of a fungus consisting of a mass of branching, thread-like hyphae. It is the primary way in which trees communicate. What Suzanne Simard’s research was coined as “the Wood Wide Web.” I highly recommend her book by the way called, Finding the Mother Tree.

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Last Breath

Hello Dearest Nature-led friends!

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Last Breath

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I’m heading home to say goodbye.

She was the best archnemesis a teenage girl could have asked for. We were young, brash and fierce. After thirty-five years I can honestly say she was the worst gold digger ever met! Why? Because she wasn’t a gold digger at all. She really truly loves/loved my dad.

At the peak of our hostility, we were eating in a nice family spaghetti restaurant when she looked at me the wrong way or made some trite comment. Who can even remember now? I flew across the table at her, and she was ready for it. We started to tussle right then and there. It took two servers and a busboy to separate us. We were informed in the parking lot we were no longer welcome there. As we all gathered in the car. My stepbrother and stepsister, little kids at the time, quietly sobbed in the backseat beside me. My dad was gripping the top of the steering wheel tightly and my stepmom and I waited to be declared winner yelled at.

Instead he said in a firm measured voice, “I really liked that restaurant.”

Now every time I think about that moment I laugh.

Her and I, we buried the hatchet some fifteen years ago now.

She was a rural postal carrier. Delivering packages where Amazons feared to tread. It was a hard job and sometimes dangerous. She’d been bitten by a dog and a squirrel, rolled in the jeep, blew out both rotor cups in her shoulders and dealt with wildfires, snowstorms and crazy people. So many times, she wanted to quit, but she felt she’d already been there too long to let go and dreamed of retiring with nice federal benefits and retiring happily ever after. She would text me from the side of the road on some of her toughest days. When she needed someone to remind her how fierce she was.

I’m frustrated and sad that she won’t get her happy ending. Cancer comes now to steal her from us quickly. She can rest now. Her shift has ended. I’ll hold the fort. I’ll keep watch over the ones we love. Cancer sucks!